What are some of the strangest reactions you’ve had when you’ve told someone your mental health story?
Do you tell people your story? I know plenty who do not, and for good reason: we’re not exactly the most understood people out there.
But see, I like shocking people. I like making them uncomfortable, watching them squirm. And so I often tell my story to strangers, especially if they approach me on the street trying to hit on me. How do I do it? Well, here’s the way it usually goes.
“Hi, I’m Dave, can I ask your name?”
“Hi Dave, I’m Alishia, nice to meet you.”
“Nice to meet you too. What are you up to today? Any plans for tonight?”
“No real plans, just some relaxation. It’s my day off today.”
“Oh yeah? Where do you work?”
*Insert Cheshire Cat smile in my head*
“I work at a peer respite house.”
“Oh yeah? What’s that?”
“Well, you see we support people who are apart of the county mental health system.”
“That sounds nice. Did you go to school for that?”
“You have to have lived mental health experiences. We do get trained, but we also have to have lived with some mental health challenges ourselves.”
And if that doesn’t make them uncomfortable, if they don’t glance away or squirm or do any of the body language symbols that means I’ve got them by the neck I mention my psychosis. That usually gets them.
What are the benefits and disadvantages to doing this? I don’t see many disadvantages. I of course wouldn’t do this in a professional setting were I applying for some big time job that isn’t mental health related, I’m aware most people have some serious misconceptions of who someone with mental health issues is. But I do it to people I meet or people I’m meeting because I’m not someone who sees my mental health as a disadvantage or something to hide. I see it as something to embrace, something to be fully, wholly comfortable with.
I don’t run down the street screaming I’m crazy, even if that’s what it sounds like. But if the topic comes up in conversation, I casually mention my struggles, and if people struggle with accepting them, that’s not really my problem.
How did I become comfortable with this? I wasn’t in high school. I didn’t like telling people I had anxiety around people because I thought it was a weakness and I didn’t want to expose my weakness for people to play target practice with. I didn’t start getting comfortable until I turned twenty and was forced to tell my boss at the amusement park I was working at so that I could get accommodations. The way he responded was very understanding, and I regret leaving that job without really giving any proper notice.
Sometimes all it takes is one moment in time.
Sometimes all it takes is a little risk.
People will react badly. And if you already know that, you’re already 10 steps ahead of everyone else. And that’s today’s Mental Truth.